This is the key to finding your passion

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How to find my passion when IDK what it is

We put way too much pressure on finding our thing. 

The thing that’s going to make us happy and fulfilled for the rest of our lives. But the thing is that’s not possible. 

We’re constantly evolving after all. I don’t have the same priorities I had 5 years ago. I’ve had new experiences, met new people, gained new perspectives and the world has changed. 

So why do we expect our passion and purpose to stay the same? It’s completely natural for it to change over time.

Maybe you just graduated and now you’re terrified to go out into the real world and pick the right career path. 

Or you’re a new mother and now you have to figure out how to keep a little human alive. 

Or you just retired and you aren’t sure how to fill your days. 

With every new milestone, your life changes in some way. You’ll have opportunities to try things you’ve never tried or thought about before and with that could emerge a new passion. 

But if you’re in a season where you feel like you’ve lost sight of your passion, I understand that it can be tough. 

Especially if you feel like you’re missing that thing that lights a fire inside you but don’t worry.

I think most people have been there at some point in their lives because life is a constant journey of rediscovering ourselves. So looking for your passion is a common problem we have as humans.

If you feel this way, this is what I’d do to find my passion. 

It’s all about that Mindset

The way you perceive the world is everything. It can make or break you. 

If you’re sitting around saying that you aren’t good at anything and your life is mediocre, you aren’t going to make the changes needed to get out of this funk. 

This is a sign of a fixed mindset when you really want to have a growth mindset to live a life you’re obsessed with.

Silence your inner critic

Which goes hand in hand with how you’re talking to yourself. Do you have an idea but you’re afraid to try it out of fear of being judged or not supported?

If this is the case, ask yourself why. Where are these beliefs coming from and are they actually true? 

Because the likelihood that you have no idea what your passion could be is slim. It’s probably an excuse so you don’t have to expose your real desires. 

There has to be something that is catching your attention but you may be pushing it to the side because you don’t think it’s possible for a number of reasons. 

Maybe you think your friends and family won’t understand. Or you don’t think you’ll make enough money to support yourself. 

Or it isn’t what society says is a great passion to pursue.

Maybe you’re someone who has a lot of different passions so how could you possibly just choose one? Analysis paralysis anyone?

But the key thing here is having a growth mindset and a mindset where you aren’t your biggest bully.

Where you believe you can learn, grow, and believe anything is possible with a little hard work.

Without it, you’re going to be stuck where you are. 

Practice some self-love

If you feel like you’re lacking belief in yourself, it’s time to lean on some good old self-care and/or work on loving yourself more.

Because you have to believe in yourself first. While it’s great to have a strong support system, you have to be at least one of your biggest cheerleaders. 

So work on reframing those thoughts that you’re inadequate and start telling yourself that you’re amazing and can do whatever you put your mind to. 

Do something every day that shows yourself some love. This could be looking at yourself in the mirror doing a power pose, saying positive affirmations, or taking a much-needed bubble bath. Or hey, all the above.

Don’t compare yourself to others

This is a big one. We’re all unique individuals with different personalities and different interests which is one of the beautiful parts of being human.

But in the age of social media and watching everyone’s perfectly curated content, it is hard to question why your life doesn’t look like theirs. Why do they seem to have it all figured out and you don’t?

(Let’s be real, their life doesn’t even look like that)

If we stopped comparing ourselves to everyone around us and instead supported people for leaning into their true selves and purpose, the world would be a better place. Because my passion isn’t going to look like your passion and that’s okay. That’s how it should be.

Accept that your passions will change

There have been times when I put so much pressure on myself to get it right the first time. The right major, the right job, the right hobby but I’ve learned that it doesn’t work that way. 

After all, just think of all the people who are happier than ever and aren’t in a field related to a major they picked when they were 18.

I don’t think we were meant to have one passion for our entire life. Just think about it. What you loved as a child isn’t something that you’re pursuing now. Sure, there may be similarities but you’ve evolved and changed which is part of being human. 

And if you take the pressure away from it being a passion you’ll want to pursue for the rest of your life, then you’re probably more likely to try new things and get out there more. 

Knowing that a passion can serve you for just a season of your life can be a beautiful thing. And sure, you may find a passion that will last a lifetime but isn’t it cool that we can have multiple passions and pursue different things? It makes life more interesting that’s for sure. 

And your passion doesn’t have to be something that you make money from. In the past few years, the side hustle has gained popularity and while it’s great to get another source of income and make money doing something you enjoy, not everything needs to be monetized. 

I’m not criticizing the side hustle since that’s what I’m trying to do but it’s something to think about. 

I love traveling but I don’t think I would want to be a travel blogger. It sounds nice in theory but then I would have to be so worried about creating content than be truly present on the trip or do activities that I want to do just because. 

You know, not worry about the gram or athestically pleasing plates. 

Another thing to consider is that your passion can just be your hobby. Maybe your day job isn’t your true passion in life but it may help support the life you want to live. As long as you don’t dread driving to work every day or it doesn’t affect your mental health, your passion could be things outside your career. 

For example, a lot of my family loves golfing but they aren’t trying to be professional golfers (except my brother might consider it at times since he seems to crush every tournament he joins).

There is a place for hobbies and hobbies are your passions. They’re literally something that you do just because you want to. Whether it’s traveling or playing golf, sometimes it’s just fun to do something solely because you enjoy doing it. 

So remember, you’re an evolving human being who may not have the same passion for your entire life and that’s okay. That’s what having a growth mindset is all about.

Passions come in all shapes and sizes from the careers we pursue to the hobbies we enjoy. It’s important to look at our life as a whole. Because some of us have careers we are completely obsessed with and others have hobbies they have no interest in monetizing but will do all day long. 

It just depends on how you want to live your life. 

But if you feel like you have your mindset in check, here’s what I’d do next

Self-awareness is key

To truly know what is going to light you up, you have to know yourself.

And this isn’t easy for a lot of us. After all, we want to fit in, be liked, and succeed in a way that society is telling us is successful so it’s easy to lose yourself in the process. 

And that’s when it’s important to turn within. You’ll gain so much more insight about what you want if you take the time to slow down and listen to yourself. 

I think the easiest place to start to gain some self-awareness is to track your days so you can see where your time and energy are currently going. 

Then reflect on this and decide what you’d want to change. Maybe there are huge chunks of your day where you’re watching TV when you could be exploring new passions. 

Because while watching TV can be a good way to relax, it’s probably not going to make you feel fulfilled.

Questions to ask

Once you’ve tracked your days and reflected on how you want to spend your time and what you need to maintain your natural energy, it’s time to ask the hard questions.

Just kidding, they aren’t that hard but can give you some insight on where to start. 

Taking some time to think about the below questions can help you gain some insight if you’re feeling a little lost at the moment. I’d suggest spending some time journaling with the below questions:

  • What have you accomplished? 
  • What skills did it take to accomplish this?
  • What are you good at? List everything, big or small
  • What catches your attention?
  • What do you like doing?
  • What are your values?
  • If money wasn’t a problem, what would you do?

Hopefully after answering these questions, you’ll be on your way to finding the clarity you’re looking for. It can give you some hints into things that could be good to try. Because it is going to take some trial and error.

Get outside your comfort zone

I’ve always had a very supportive family who cheered me on in anything that I tried to do which gave me the confidence to try anything that I was vaguely interested in. 

And I encourage you to do the same. You really don’t know what you don’t know. If you’re doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results, you know that’s a sign of insanity, right? 

So if you’re craving something different or that what you’re currently doing isn’t your thing, it’s time to do something new. The good news is that you know what you don’t want to do so it’s one less thing to explore. 

The more exposure you have to different activities or experiences, the more clarity you’ll get on what you want to do. 

So check out local clubs, take a local class, or spend a Friday night exploring new activities.

But remember you may not be good at it at first. You’ve never done it before so how could you possibly be great at it? After all, even Olympians spend hours practicing their sport. 

Practice makes perfect so make sure you give it a fighting chance. 

If you don’t know what your passion is don’t put so much pressure on yourself to find it. You’re more likely to find it when you’re trying new things and just living a life that feels aligned with you. 

Make sure you’re mindset is in check and that you check in with yourself.

Until next time,


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