Let’s unveil the Hidden Habits That Sabotage Your Success and Goals.
We all have dreams and goals, whether they involve our careers, relationships, health, or personal growth. However, despite our best intentions, we often find ourselves falling short of reaching these goals.
So what gives? You may be asking yourself why you can’t seem to hit those goals even when you have the best intentions and so much motivation in the beginning.
In many cases, it’s not external factors or circumstances that hold us back, but rather our own habits or even mindset.
Our habits are the foundation of the life we live. Your habits either support you or hinder you from reaching your full potential.
So the first place to look when you keep coming up short when chasing your dreams is your habits.
These common habits may be hindering your progress but there is hope to break free from them. I’m going to give you some tips on how to shift these habits into ones that are going to serve you better.
It’s time to unleash your full potential and start achieving your goals!
I know this one may seem obvious but it is one of the most common habits that can hurt your progress.
We’ve all experienced it at some point, putting off important tasks or delaying crucial actions for our goals because we don’t feel like it or we feel some kind of resistance (which is completely natural since you’re stepping out of your comfort zone btw).
Then you tell yourself you’ll wait until you’re more motivated, have more energy, or are in the right mindset.
But let’s be real, these things don’t usually hit when you need them to.
If you’re introverted, your energy can be easily drained by social interactions so it is hard to want to work towards your goals after a long day at the office or even after a weekend of socializing.
But putting it off until the last minute or until inspiration hits is not a good move. It is going to prevent you from making progress toward your goals.
Procrastination leads to stress, lowers our productivity, and sabotages our long-term success.
Which leads to a lack of consistency
And when we’re inconsistent, it makes it so much harder to keep moving forward.
Consistency is the key to long-term success, yet it’s something that many of us struggle with. I’m definitely guilty of being inconsistent.
We often start out strong, fueled by motivation and enthusiasm, only to lose momentum over time.
That’s when procrastination kicks in and we start to push off our goals. To avoid this, create a clear roadmap for your goals, establish a routine, and set realistic, achievable targets.
And it doesn’t have to be something that is done seven or even five days a week. You get to decide what consistency looks like for you.
With anything new, I suggest starting out slow. Create a schedule and stick to it.
Stick to it longer than you think you have to before deciding it isn’t working. Greatness takes time after all and it is going to take time to actually see the results you desire.
And try to avoid the all-or-nothing mindset
You know the good old ‘I’ll start Monday’ and then life happens and you don’t start Monday.
So you tell yourself next Monday
And so on and so forth?
The all-or-nothing mentality can hinder you from reaching your goals because life is unpredictable and you aren’t always going to be able to do everything according to plan.
Just think about it. What is better?
Having the perfect day Monday and Tuesday then falling off the wagon and telling yourself you’ll pick it up again Monday
Having imperfect days but you took one small action toward your goals Monday through Sunday.
The second choice is going to get you to your goals faster because you continued to take action even when it wasn’t perfect.
So if you have an off day, just pick back up and keep moving forward. Don’t wait until Monday.
You aren’t always going to feel like doing it and you’re going to want to procrastinate. This is completely normal my friend so don’t stress about it.
This is when discipline comes into play.
Just imagine how easy life would be if we had the motivation to do the work when it was convenient. But that’s not how life works.
There are setbacks, conflicting priorities, and obligations that are going to get in the way. With all of that, there doesn’t seem like enough time in the day so your big scary goal doesn’t always seem possible.
Especially if you’re looking at the whole mountain and not the one step you need to take next.
If you break it up into smaller tasks then it will make it seem more attainable.
For example, if you want to lose 20 pounds, start by focusing on losing one pound. What actions do you need to take to lose just one pound?
This seems way easier than 20 pounds right? But you need to lose that one pound in order to lose the 20 pounds.
Breaking it up into little pieces is going to make a huge difference in getting you to do the work.
While setting deadlines and scheduling time to work on your goals is going to be extremely helpful, you also have to be mindful of your schedule and your energy levels.
Pay attention to when you have the most energy and schedule time to work towards your goals.
We all have lives and you want to schedule in time that is going to work for you.
If you like to go out to happy hour with your friends, you may need to schedule some time in the morning to reach your goals. Or if you know you have low energy levels in the afternoon, plan to tackle the bigger, needle-moving forward tasks in the morning.
Or if you aren’t a morning person, you don’t need to create a productive morning routine.
Create a schedule that works for you.
That way when you schedule time on your calendar to work on your goals, you are less likely to push it off when it clashes with another priority.
You are never going to feel motivated 100% of the time. That’s when you have to rely on discipline. However, it is possible to set yourself up so that the chances are higher.
Celebrate small wins along the way to help you stay motivated, and find an accountability partner or support system to keep you on track.
Remember, success is not an overnight event but a result of sustained effort and dedication.
2. Negative Self-Talk
What you say to yourself truly matters. After all, you spend the most time with yourself … every minute of every hour for your entire life!
So why beat yourself up?
Our internal dialogue has immense power over our beliefs, actions, and ultimately, our outcomes.
The way you perceive your looks, ability, and values is either going to support you on your journey through life or sabotage you.
If you believe that you can’t do it or that you’re never going to reach your goals, are you really going to put in the effort to try to reach them?
This is why manifestation has become a buzzword and is huge in today’s society. Manifestation is all about the law of attraction and that you will attract what you put out into the world.
In other words, if you’re constantly talking badly about yourself, you’re going to attract bad things into your life. That kinda makes sense when you think about it.
I know if I’m in a bad mood and feeling a bit woe is me then I see the world in a more negative light than if I take the time to reframe these thoughts.
So try sending out those positive vibes. Believe in yourself, treat people kindly, and live life a little carefree, and you’ll begin to notice the good things in your life.
After all, we are in charge of our reality. We can believe everyone is out to get us and that we aren’t meant to have nice things or we can have a growth mindset where we believe we can do anything we set our minds to.
Now overcoming negative self-talk isn’t easy, especially in a society where we’re constantly told we aren’t good enough.
So starting with manifesting could be helpful. Just know that nothing is going to be handed to you (that’s not the point of manifesting), you’re still going to have to put in the work.
But visualizing a life where you reach your goals and then creating a course of action on how to do it is a game-changer.
If manifestation seems a little too woo-woo for you or just not your thing, I would start with building self-awareness. Try to catch yourself when you have a negative thought come up and examine it.
Journal about it and ask yourself why these thoughts are coming up. Pay attention to any patterns that come up and approach them with curiosity.
Start reframing those negative thoughts into neutral thoughts and then into positive ones.
Here’s a free workbook I created all about challenging your inner critic:
Next, look at those closest to you. Are they a bunch of whiners or are they positive thinkers?
Who we spend time with can have a massive impact on our mindset, so it is important to get rid of anyone in your life who is bringing you down.
Especially if they are talking down to you or making you feel like something isn’t possible for you. These people have no place in your life.
You can do anything you set your mind to.
Surround yourself with supportive individuals, practice self-compassion, and gradually rewire your mindset to embrace self-belief and positivity.
3. Staying in Your Bubble
This one is completely natural. It’s scary to get out of your comfort zone and try something new. It’s human nature to try to protect ourselves from getting hurt which includes emotional strain as well.
Which isn’t a bad thing at times. It has helped you survive for this long but when it comes to putting yourself out there or standing up for yourself, it can really hinder you especially when you’re trying to stretch yourself.
The fear of making mistakes or facing rejection can paralyze us, preventing us from taking risks or reaching our goals.
Instead, we stay stuck in our routine and our current life that we aren’t obsessed with.
But you’re always going to have fears when trying something new but you have to push yourself through that fear. I know, I know, waayyy easier said than done.
I once heard a saying in a training I attended that has stuck with me ever since. Fail is actually an acronym.
This really resonated with me because it is so true. If you’re a beginner, you aren’t going to be good at it the first time around. You have to get back up and try again.
If you aren’t failing, you aren’t learning. It’s as simple as that. You’re only going to get better if you keep practicing and trying again.
So accept failure as part of the process. No one is expecting you to be perfect when you’re first starting out and honestly, they are too worried about their own stuff to care.
If you put yourself out there and fail then it is an opportunity to learn and to grow.
The best piece of advice I can give you is to reframe failure as feedback. Try to accept the fact that you are going to mess up and that’s okay because it is going to lead you to succeeding and figuring it out in the long run.
Did you know that you can’t multitask as well as you think you can?
Research suggests that attempting to juggle multiple tasks simultaneously can lead to decreased focus, reduced performance, and a lack of attention to detail.
The brain can only truly focus on one thing at a time otherwise you’re jumping from one task to the next.
David Meyer, who has a PhD in psychology found in his study that the brief mental block that happens when multitasking can cost as much as 40% of someone’s productive time.
Forty percent! That’s almost half of your productivity time wasted because you’re trying to do too many things at once.
So instead, adopt the practice of single-tasking.
Prioritize your goals, focus on one task at a time, and allocate dedicated blocks of time for deep work.
By giving your undivided attention to each task, you’ll experience increased productivity and quality output because you are no longer wasting all your time and effort shifting back and forth.
5. Saying Yes to Everything
In order to reach your goals, you’re going to have to say no to things.
Otherwise, you aren’t going to have the time to put in the work. Being a people pleaser or having FOMO could be the reason that you aren’t reaching your goals.
Now, I’m not saying to completely close yourself off to the outside world until you reach your goals because you should enjoy the journey.
However, if your goals are important to you, you have to stay committed to the time you set to work on them. If plans come up and you are planning on going to a cycle class that day, you will have to politely decline.
You can schedule time with friends and family around your time to work on your goals but don’t try to be everything to everyone.
You’re going to wear yourself out. So prioritize events or tasks that you want to do. Not ones that you feel obligated to do.
Just a few adjustments to your habits can have a huge impact
Breaking free from the habits that hold us back from reaching our goals requires self-reflection, discipline, and a commitment to personal growth.
By identifying and addressing these habits, we can empower ourselves to achieve our dreams.
So start off slow. Take baby steps and slowly work on removing these habits that are no longer serving you. You created these habits slowly over time so it is going to take some time to override them.
Embrace the journey of self-improvement, take one step at a time, and unlock your full potential. The path to success is within your reach; it’s time to start walking it.
Until next time,
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