Actionable confidence-building activities you can try today!
Confidence is something that ebbs and flows throughout life. Some days you’re just going to feel more confident than others.
It’s part of being human.
However, if you are constantly feeling down or that you aren’t good enough, then you may want to increase your self-esteem and confidence.
Easier said than done, right?
Trust me, I know I use to have very low self-esteem and self-worth. I was afraid to show my true self and upset those around me but then one day, I realize that this isn’t the way to live my life.
You should be proud of who you are and what you have to offer the world.
No one is perfect and we all have flaws but that doesn’t mean we can’t work on ourselves to become the best version of ourselves. I’m glad you’re here because you’re taking the important steps to live a better life and increase your sense of self-worth!
Understanding what self-confidence is and why it’s important
Before we get into the activities that will help build your confidence, it’s important to understand exactly what self-confidence is and why it’s so valuable.
Self confidence is defined as “a feeling of trust in one’s abilities, qualities, and judgment.”
It’s basically believing in yourself and your abilities to do something well.
Building self-confidence is important because it:
- allows you to try new things and seize opportunities in everyday life
- makes you more resilient when facing challenges or setbacks
- boosts your performance
- helps you build better relationships
- builds a positive attitude
- improves your mental health
- and can lead to a happier and healthier life
At a young age, our self-esteem is questioned by bullies and even what we see on television. It’s part of our society, unfortunately. But healthy self-esteem is important to live your best life so we need to stand up to those childhood traumas and build that self-esteem back up!
Identifying the signs that you need to work on your self-confidence
Now that you know why self-confidence is so important, it’s time to identify the signs that you may need to work on yourself.
Do any of these sound familiar?
- You’re afraid to take risks or try new things
- You’re quick to give up when things get tough
- You compare yourself to others a lot
- You’re often negative or critical of yourself
- You let other people’s opinions control your life
- You have trouble accepting compliments
If the answer is yes to all of these, the good news is that we’re humans who are capable of changing so you can change these feelings of low self-confidence. These activities can be the building blocks to higher self-worth and self-esteem!
16 activities that will help increase your confidence
Now to get into the activities to build your self-confidence! With anything involving personal growth, to get the outcome you desire, you have to put in the reps.
It’s going to involve challenging your limiting beliefs and having the courage to step outside your comfort zone. Since once you leave your comfort zone, that is when you see the changes you want.
If you’re looking for ways to build your confidence and self-esteem, here are 16 of the best confidence building activities that will help.
1. Evaluate your Core Beliefs using Self-Esteem Journal Prompts
The first step is to take a look at your core beliefs. What do you believe about yourself? Are they positive or negative? If they’re negative, it’s time to start working on changing them.
One way to do this is to write down your thoughts and feelings about yourself. Once you have them down on paper, you can start to analyze them.
Are they true? How do they make you feel? If they’re negative and don’t make you feel good, it’s time to start working on changing them.
If you’re not sure where to start when it comes to evaluating your core beliefs, using self-esteem journal prompts can be a great way to get started.
There are a ton of different journal prompts out there but here are a few examples:
- What are some things you like about yourself?
- What are your strengths?
- List the things you’re proud of that you’ve accomplished.
- When was the last time you did something outside of your comfort zone?
- What are some things you’re grateful for in your life?
Of course, I have a whole post on self-esteem journal prompts to build your confidence to check out! Remember, building self-esteem is never easy but a good way to start is by challenging those limiting beliefs through journal prompts.
2. Reframe Negative Self-Talk
If you find yourself constantly putting yourself down or having negative thoughts about yourself, it’s time to start reframing your self-talk.
One way to do this is to become aware of your thoughts. When you notice yourself thinking negatively about yourself, stop and question the thought.
Is it true? How do I want to feel? What would I say to a friend or loved one in this situation? After you’ve questioned the thought, replace it with a more positive one.
After a while, you won’t have to reframe your negative thoughts because you’ll naturally begin speaking to yourself better. Another way to do this is to compliment yourself. This may sound conceited but believe me, it does help build your self-worth!
Also, make sure to accept compliments from others! Don’t dismiss it because you are awesome and you deserve that compliment girl!
Another way to reframe negative self-talk is positive affirmations. I have a ton of self-love affirmations on the blog as well.
To build high self-esteem, challenging your inner critic is a great place to start. You spend the most time with yourself so if you’re filling your head with negative thoughts, it’s going to be hard to show up as your best self.
3. Journal on a Regular Basis
Journaling is a great way to get all of your thoughts and feelings out. It can also be very therapeutic.
I like to journal at least 3-5 times a week but you can do it as often or as little as you’d like. Just make sure you’re consistent with it. I would try to incorporate it into your routine, whether that’s daily, weekly or monthly!
There are a lot of different ways you can journal but I prefer free writing. This is where you just write whatever comes to your mind without stopping.
You can write about anything and everything! This is a great way to get all of your thoughts and feelings out so you can start working on them.
4. Practice Gratitude
Practicing gratitude is one of the quickest ways to start feeling better about yourself and your life. Practicing gratitude should be done on a daily basis and it is so easy to do.
When you focus on what you’re grateful for, it’s impossible to focus on the negative.
One way to practice gratitude is to keep a gratitude journal. Every day, write down 3-5 things you’re grateful for.
You can also start each day by thinking of something you’re grateful for or even saying it out loud.
Another great way to practice gratitude is to volunteer your time or donate to a cause you’re passionate about. When you help others, it’s a great way to boost your self-esteem.
5. Work on Your Communication Skills
If you want to build your confidence, working on your communication skills is a great place to start. After all, confident people are excellent communicators!
One way to work on your communication skills is to take a public speaking class or join a Toastmasters club.
You can also practice your communication skills by having more difficult conversations. This can be anything from asking for a raise to telling a friend you’re upset with them.
Being more assertive when you speak is going to build your confidence because you’ll be able to ask for what you actually want and say no when something doesn’t serve you.
I know this is easier said than done but the more you practice, the easier it will become and the more confident you’ll feel in yourself.
6. Observe Your Body Language
Your body language plays a big role in how confident you come across to others. If you have good body language, you’ll appear more confident even if you don’t feel it on the inside.
On the other hand, if your body language is slouched and you’re not making eye contact, people will view you as being unconfident.
So what is good body language? Good body language is standing up straight, making eye contact, and having an open posture. You know, that good old power pose? It has been linked to higher self-esteem if you try this simple activity. Check out these examples from the Ted Talk blog.
You can also use your body language to show others that you’re approachable. This includes smiling and maintaining a relaxed stance.
7. Dress for Success
What you wear has a big impact on how confident you feel. When you look good, you’ll feel good.
So make sure you have clothes that fit well and that you feel comfortable in. You should also dress for the occasion.
For example, if you’re going to a job interview, dress more formally than if you were going to a friend’s barbecue.
But whatever you do, don’t try to dress like someone else! Be yourself and dress in a way that makes you feel confident and good.
8. Celebrate All Wins
No matter how big or small, it’s important to celebrate all of your wins! This includes everything from getting a promotion at work to finally cleaning out your closet.
When you take the time to celebrate your accomplishments, it shows yourself that you’re worthy of success. It also helps to build your confidence for future endeavors.
So next time you accomplish something, take a moment to celebrate it! You can do something as simple as buying yourself a cupcake or taking yourself on a shopping spree. Just make sure you do something to reward yourself.
9. Take Action on Your Goals
One way to build your confidence is by taking action on your goals. This shows yourself that you’re capable of achieving what you set out to do. Confidence is born from action so any kind of progress can build your confidence up.
Of course, taking action on your goals can be scary. But that’s okay! It’s normal to feel scared when you’re doing something new or outside of your comfort zone.
The important thing is to take that first step anyway. Once you get started, the rest will become easier and you’ll start to feel more confident in yourself.
I would suggest setting some small goals such as drinking 100 ounces of water a day or reading before you go to bed. Something that you could easily do since that small win will help fill your confidence bucket.
10. Evaluate the Relationships in Your Life
The relationships you have play a big role in how confident you feel. If you’re surrounded by negative people who are always putting themselves or even you down, it’s going to be hard to feel good about yourself.
On the other hand, if you have positive relationships with people who support and believe in you, it’s going to be much easier to feel confident.
So take a look at the relationships in your life and see if there are any that are dragging you down. If so, it might be time to distance yourself from those people even if it’s family members.
Manifesting is all about creating what you want in your life through the power of positive thinking.
Basically, you visualize what you want and then put out that intention to the universe. The universe will then work its magic and help you to achieve your goals.
To manifest, start by visualizing what you want. This can be anything from a new car to a better job. Once you have a clear image of what you want, focus on feeling the emotions you would feel if you already had it.
For example, if you’re manifesting a new job, imagine how it would feel to get the offer letter. Are you excited? relieved? grateful? Focus on those positive emotions and let them fill your entire being.
Then, let go of the visualization and trust that the universe will help you to achieve your goal. For more on manifesting, check out my post on the power of manifestation for self-love and confidence.
Some ways to put manifesting into action are by creating a vision board or by incorporating a mediation practice into your routine where you imagine how your life would be if you were more confident.
12. Self-Help Books
If you’re looking for some guidance on how to build your confidence, self-help books are a great resource. There are books on just about every topic imaginable, so you’re sure to find one that’s perfect for you.
I try to read a personal development book for at least 20 minutes every day to learn something new and work on my personal growth. There are so many different books on what exactly you’re struggling with when it comes to confidence, such as people-pleasing, improving your self-image, and eliminating limiting beliefs to name a few.
13. Online Courses
If you want to learn more about confidence building, there are plenty of online courses available on sites such as udemy . These courses can teach you everything from how to reframe your thoughts to how to celebrate your wins.
Plus, they’re usually much cheaper than hiring a coach or attending a seminar.
If you’re struggling with your confidence, therapy can be a great option. A therapist can help you to identify the root cause of your low self-esteem and develop a plan to address it.
Therapy can be an extremely effective way to build confidence, so if you’re feeling stuck, it might be worth considering. After all, sometimes it is worth it to get help from a professional.
15. Spend Less Time on Social Media
Social media can be a major confidence killer. It’s hard to feel good about yourself when you’re constantly comparing yourself to others.
It’s extremely important to keep in mind that social media users only post the highlights of their lives or what they want you to see. It’s not the ugly parts of themselves that they are trying to hide. After all, what do you post on social media?
So if you find that you’re spending too much time on social media or comparing yourself to others’ feeds, try cutting back. Spend less time scrolling through your feed and more time doing things that make you happy.
16. Create a Self Care Routine
Creating a self-care routine is a great way to show yourself some love and appreciation. It shows that you matter and you deserve to be taken care of which is a huge confidence boost. When you take care of yourself, both physically and emotionally, it’s much easier to feel confident.
So take some time to create a self-care routine that works for you. This might include things like getting regular massages, working out, going for a daily walk, or taking a relaxing bath once a week.
I would also encourage you to try to nourish your body with nutritious foods and eat some fruits and vegetables. If you feel better physically, it’s going to help you feel more empowered to be confident at work or in your personal life.
Whatever you do, make sure it’s something that makes you feel good.
Building confidence takes time and effort, but it’s definitely worth it. When you have confidence, you can achieve anything you set your mind to. So use these activities to help you build the confidence you need to take on the world.
Tips for increasing low self-esteem and low self-worth
1. Acknowledge your strengths and accomplishments
When you take the time to reflect on your accomplishments, it can help increase your self-esteem. Make a list of things you’re proud of, both big and small. Include things like getting a promotion at work, completing a project you’re passionate about, or even just making it through a tough day.
2. Set realistic expectations
If you’re constantly setting yourself up for disappointment, it’s going to be hard to feel good about yourself.
So instead of aiming for perfection, focus on setting realistic expectations. This way, you’re more likely to achieve your goals and feel proud of your accomplishments.
Be patient with yourself. You’re going to make mistakes and mess up, that’s just put of being human. However, just tell yourself to be 1% better every day and if you mess up, get back up and try again!
3. Be kind to yourself
You wouldn’t dream of speaking to someone else the way you speak to yourself, so why do it? Start being more mindful of the things you say to yourself and make an effort to be kinder. When you’re more accepting of yourself, it’s easier to feel confident.
4. Don’t compare yourself to others
Comparing yourself to others is a surefire way to feel bad about yourself. Everyone is on their own journey and you’re exactly where you’re supposed to be.
Focus on your own life and don’t worry about what everyone else is doing. You’ll get to where you want to be eventually.
5. Do you have a growth mindset?
If you have a growth mindset, it means that you believe you can improve with effort. This is opposed to a fixed mindset, which is when you believe your ability is set in stone.
Research has shown that people with a growth mindset are more likely to be successful because they’re not afraid of failure. They know that they can always get better and they’re willing to put in the work.
So if you want to increase your self-esteem, focus on having a growth mindset. Remember that you can always improve and don’t be afraid to fail.
Learning a new skill will help you naturally gain more confidence because you know more than you did before!
Use these tips and activities to help build confidence and increase self esteem. Remember to be patient with yourself and focus on your own journey. Building confidence is a lifelong journey so you might as well enjoy the process!
With time and effort, you’ll be feeling more confident in no time.
Until next time,
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